Appreciation Can Get You Back To Feeling Good

Rather than getting upset with someone, show appreciation for them instead. This isn’t always going to be easy to do because it is a significant switch of attitudes. As hard a pill as is it to swallow, the way we feel comes from the ay we think; meaning that your feelings are your choice in any given situation. If someone makes you disconcerted, rather than getting angry at them, focus instead on those things that make you grateful for that person.

It Can Transform Your Relationships

While it is always important to talk out your problems with your spouse or significant other, criticising them all the time will quickly deteriorate your relationship. When you find yourself feeling the urge to criticise them, stop and take a deep breath, and calm down. Please do what you can to focus on all the reasons you appreciate your partner, then share your appreciation with them as soon as possible. Showing your appreciation will help to make your relationship stronger.

If you think about how you want them to feel about you, especially when you feel at your worst, it will make it easier to flip your anger to realisation. What I mean is, you will realise that how you feel at that moment really isn’t about the other person. There are other more personal reasons you feel a certain way, and it’s usually frustration with yourself that you are projecting. When you can take a breath and have more appreciation and compassion for yourself and the other person, you can then build stronger bonds.

Listen I am a mum of 6 children, and I hear you, children can really frustrate the heck out of even the calmest parent. I know there are many parents out there who get frustrated with their kids. Unfortunately, many of us also communicate their frustrations to their kids too often, leaving our kids to feel down on themselves.

There aren’t many of us that are born from a positive parenting generation…yet. Rather than continually finding kids doing something wrong; catch them doing the right thing and appreciate them; most importantly praise them at that moment. Share that with your children and take the opportunity to teach them, rather than criticising them. Most of the time, our children won’t remember what they have done to anger or frustrate you, but they will remember our reaction.

The best parenting advice I ever got was from a woman who was now a grandmother, she said, “Your kids won’t remember how dirty the floor was. Still, they will remember how often you got down on that floor and played games with them.” Appreciate your children more you’ll both be better for it.

Living in Appreciation Can Help You Better Deal with Tragedy

Ok, now this would have to be the hardest one. I’m going to spend a little more time on this one. Some many people suffer untold strategies and will read my post and scream at me with, “Are you kidding me? How can I possibly appreciate what just happened to my family or me?”. 

Facing disasters in your life can be crippling, I know this first hand, I have lost an unborn baby and two of my step-brothers—one from suicide the other from an overdose. I lived my childhood with a parent addicted to alcohol, who was a mean and abusive drunk. Beatings with a kettle cord were regular….Leaving the “care” of my one parent, I ended up in a hostel for children. At 14, I went headfirst into a toxic – extremely toxic relationship for the next 11 years of my life. Sometimes being beaten black and blue. Guess what; I went from him into an even worse one, I jumped right into the fire and almost got myself killed with my second boyfriend, over a very long 4 year period.

“Facing disasters in your life can be crippling, I know this first hand, I have lost an unborn baby and two of my brothers—one from suicide the other from an overdose…”

So before you think it’s easy for me to say this, believe me, I have walked a rough path…

I have had to dig really deep to keep going on some days or even months. The one thing that pulled me out of those deep depression episodes was appreciation. I had to start with the little things, such as appreciation that I woke up that day, that I had breath in my lungs or that I wasn’t sick that day.  

When you suffer a tragedy, appreciating the life you have, the life that they had or that you are past that tragic event; can help you move through the grief with less heartbreak.  

Grief Can Be Overwhelming

If you let grief overcome you, there’s only one thing that can change the way you’re feeling at that moment. And that is to start appreciating something, anything! Appreciating your life will also help you to make choices that are better for you. Appreciation is like the fuel for your car, without it you can’t really go places.

While you may want to stay in grief, I get it; it hurts…deeply. But, you can also take away something that is even more significant from any tragedy, the appreciation for life overall. Appreciation will help you to have a love for the people you still have in your life and more appreciation for the fleeting beauty of life itself. It allows you to show appreciation for those in your life and enjoy your life while you can.  

As someone who has experienced life from a challenging lense, I can confidently impart these few words of advice to you.

Finding ways to incorporate appreciation into your life will change it for the better. Life is meant to be lived; it is meant to be fun; we are here to learn and grow. Using appreciation as a tool in your toolbox to dig you out of a hole and move you forward is a skill you will never stop using. You will have a new found love for life, things around you will change for the better, and good things will happen or you more often than not.

Here’s To You – Thank You For Spending Time With Me, I Appreciate You So Much!

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